Common Questions And Answers

Question: I suspect that my husband is sleeping around. He is now emotionally distant from me. All I ever dream of is to have a man who loves me and only me. You talked about retaining a man’s attention. Do you think I can achieve it?
Answer: You can keep his eyes on you. You can do it the way babies keep their mothers eyes on them. If he belongs to you, then he’s yours. I’m glad you know he belongs to you, for you started with the phrase “I suspect that my husband…”

Would you be terribly disappointed if I mention something I presume you may have already heard before?...

Question: I am a young woman of 37. I have been married for eight years. I met my partner in a sport’s festival three years ago. We had an argument and he called me unprintable names. The relationship almost came to an end but for my in-laws who intervened and asked me to forgive him.

My husband has also apologized to me, and I have been living with him since then.

It’s just that i find it difficult to respond to him and connect with him as before. I do not even respond to him sexually and it’s affecting our relationship. I feel we have become two adults camping together. He has done all he could to restore the loving relationship we had. Sometimes I feel bad. I want us to connect like we used to, but it’s so hard for me. Is there something I can do about it?
Answer: “I will never forget the way she felt when I said those words” she was hurt, I felt bad, hurting the woman I love. It took Teresa six long years to put it behind him. Our marriage almost crumbled…
Question: I am a young man. I have found a woman that I would love to marry, but I suspect she is already seeing someone else. Every time I see her, something tells me that we belong to each other.

I have even prayed over this and I’m at peace with myself, but I don’t know how I can get her to understand the way I feel for her. I met her in church and I noticed that she is close to a certain man.

Does it make sense to go ahead and get acquainted with her? Wouldn’t it seem like I’m breaking up someone’s else‘s relationship?

Answer: Your question re-echoes the feelings of many young men just like you. For reasons that I cannot adequately explain now, a good number of men find it a little difficult to speak to a lady.

It’s so awful and it hurts me to know that there are very beautiful and wonderful sisters out there who are lonely, just because some men would prefer to have suspicions for a long time, while others experience temporary speech defects.

I met a young man lately and he told me that he found someone he would love to marry. “She’s everything I need in a woman, but I don’t think I will marry her, I may go for someone else” “why would you do that” I asked and he said. “I don’t know, but there is this quiet sophistication about her that drains me of the energy to talk to her”.

His case was so pathetic. I forgot about everything else I was doing and loaded him with…

Question: I’m a young woman of thirty two, married with two kids. I don’t understand why my spouse never says anything complimentary about my body. What does it take for a man to say some thing nice about the woman he loves?

Answer: It takes an expressive and eloquent young man who is …

Question: I have been married for eight years. I love my husband and still love him, but I don’t think that I can continue with the relationship, my love for him notwithstanding.

He’s always hurling verbal missiles at me. I don’t know where he picked this habit from. He apologizes the next minute and before I have a chance to erase the memory of the missiles, he reinforces a few days later with more potent missiles.

He attacks my personality. He has a huge register of horrible words. How can a man launch such verbal onslaught at regular intervals at the woman he claims to love? I intend to call it off and have some peace. Do you think he needs my help?

Answer: I am sometimes tempted to imagine how blissful a relationship can be when the man and the woman have speech defects or putting it bluntly, when they are deaf and dumb. Perhaps people who are deaf and dumb seem to enjoy their relationship, because the risk of hurting their partners with words is eliminated.

Just at that moment I am able to establish the case to the contrary…


Question: I am a young woman of 38. I have a Ph.D. in Marketing and I work in one of the multinationals.

By reasonable standards, I’m well to do, but I’m not as happy and fulfilled as I desire. I’m still single and I discover that most men are scared stiff of ladies who are up there in the ladder of success. They are sometimes intimidated by my personality. Is that my greatest undoing, what am I supposed to do?

Answer: Few months ago, I was speaking in a conference and I was teaching them about the keys to finding your partner. I had just finished speaking and was seated in an office to catch my breath, when a young lady looking rather unhappy walked in and requested to see me and I obliged. No sooner had she sat down than her tear ducts came alive.
With tears streaming down her face. She asked me if I thought she was over qualified to be found by a man.

Before I could answer, she went ahead to tell me how lonely and depressed she had been. She told me she had two cars, and two magnificent buildings in town, and works in one of the oil firms in town. “Why haven’t any man said ‘hi’ to me? I need to know if I’m over qualified for a wife.”

I was thrilled to see her beam